My screenwriting professor always said that a story must have a beginning and an end. And something really interesting better happen in between, otherwise no one will buy your script.
Coming from an education in filmmaking, I approach a wedding as a story, not just an event. Or even a day. Your wedding part of a much larger narrative. Boy meets girl; they fall in love; he asks to marry her; they plan she plans the wedding. Cut to exterior shot of the church.
In all seriousness, your wedding is so much more than just an event. You’ve probably been thinking about it for months if not years. Maybe you have a binder bursting with ideas, plans, and dress options. Or at least a good start on a Pinterest board. Your closest friends, parents, siblings, and families have all come together to support you two. This event is so far reaching that its consequences last for the rest of your
life. So to say that it’s only a day just isn’t true.
As a couple you’ve had an entirely unique story together: from how you met, the moment you knew you loved each other, where you got engaged, what your wedding looks like, to your marriage. No one else will ever have the same experiences you do. Your love story is unlike any other. And the wedding is a significant event within that bigger adventure. It is the bridge between one chapter ending and new, exciting one beginning.
But it also has its own storyline. So over next several weeks we’ll be exploring its different parts. We’ll go through each chapter of the day. From rehearsal and getting ready to portraits, to even a year later, your anniversary, discussing:
- what to expect from each chapter
- how to prepare well for the entire day
- and get tips from other wedding professionals and recently married couple.
And if you’re looking for the secret to an amazing wedding, here it is: I think that the best weddings are when the bride and groom are present throughout the day. Enjoying each minute with friends and family. Realizing this moment is precious, and yet there is so much more to come. They see the wedding as a wonderful celebration of their love and commitment shared with all the people who are most important to them. And isn’t that what a wedding should be?
P.S. If you’re planning your wedding I hope this will give you some food for thought. If you’re already married, what part of the day was your favorite? Would you have changed anything? And if you’re usually working at weddings, like me, what advice do you have?