It’s fall in the South, which means we’re smack in the middle of wedding season. There’s a lot of knot-tying happening between all of the apples, pumpkins, and vegan Halloween cookies. For those of you about to get hitched, this one’s especially for you. Grab a pumpkin spice latte, your favorite fall sweater, and enjoy.
When we talk about a wedding, we're usually referring to the day. Yet so many events often surround the wedding day that are also a special part of the celebration. For me it was the luncheon my great aunt and uncle hosted, the breakfast out with just my soon-to-be bride, and the rehearsal dinner. Not to mention smoking cigars with my best friend. (It’s not a person; it’s a tier. Kudos, Mindy Kaling.)
Rehearse, then relax.
So why is the rehearsal dinner important, besides being your pre-marathon meal? It’s where you can relax. You’re not in an uncomfortable tux or dress. You’re surrounded by your closest family and friends. And you’re not on display. You can just be you. Look around around the room and note that everyone is there to celebrate you. Soak in the moment, enjoy the good food and drinks, and party on!
A rehearsal dinner is also the best place for stories and toasts. Family members will probably launch into tales that begin with, “I remember when Jill was four years old…” And that’s OK, because it’s family. It’s their way of honoring you and saying that you mean something to them. And besides, isn’t it better that they’re sharing the embarrassing story about you now, than at your wedding reception?
A lot of couples I work with plan outings with friends and family leading up to the wedding. Don’t skip this! Wedding planning is hard work. Schedule time to have fun. Maybe a round of golf or shooting, or old-school arcade games (Jurassic Park pinball, anyone?) for the gents. Or a spa day, pottery class, or wine tasting for the ladies. Pick an activity that you enjoy and just do it. The journey to the wedding day is stressful, so pamper yourself. Have some fun just hanging out with your friends.
Go on a date!
This is possibly the best thing you can do on the week before your wedding. Escape with your soon-to-be and have fun together. Whatever that looks like for you. A few ground rules, though:
Turn off your cell phones. No one should interrupt this time for you.
Do not mention the word “wedding.” No planning. No details. Nothing.You’ve been working on this for months. Take a break and find something else to chat about.
Get out of the house. Maybe a place where you’ve had several dates. A favorite hangout. I guarantee you’re surrounded by wedding items and to-do's at home. Just get away from it all. :)
As your wedding day approaches, make time for you, your loved one, and the people that mean the most. This week is full of anticipation and excitement. Don’t let it go by and miss the beautiful moments that will be happening all around you. Be intentional about setting aside time to have fun and relax. You’ll remember these moments for the rest of your life.
P.S. Are you getting married? Know someone else who is tying the knot? I would be happy to discuss and walk through the details with you. I'd love to treat you to coffee and help you create the wedding that you're envisioning. I have a few slots left in my schedule next week.