first look \ 1st lúc \ n. : an intimate moment between a bride and groom on their wedding day before the ceremony and festivities
There’s a very special moment that happens when you first see your bride in her dress. You never forget it. Sometimes it starts with the doors opening and as she begins a breathtaking walk toward you, down the aisle. Like when I first saw my beautiful bride, almost five years ago.
Or you may have a quiet, intimate moment in a shady glen before the day goes into full swing. Before getting nervous. Before 100 pairs of eyes are watching. It’s just the two of you, seeing each other for the first time.
A first look does buck tradition. No way around that. But a large majority of couples I’ve worked with have done it. And if I could go back, I would have too–it makes for more meaningful images. If you’re wondering if you should do it, here are a few things to think about.
share something special
When it’s only you and the love of your life, you act differently. There’s more laughter, smiles, and visible love. On many occasions the first look calms a couple’s nerves. And instead of checking your emotions because you’re on display, you can just be yourself. It’s OK to get emotional. This is usually when a groom tears up. Many brides have come back and mentioned that the first look was their favorite part of the day.
enjoy your whole reception
Imagine going directly from your ceremony to your reception. No missing the first hour. You both can enjoy more time with family and friends at the reception. The whole day is a celebration for you. And it always goes by too fast. Plus, it’s hard to party by proxy.
get images that mean more
When couples decide to do a first look, that’s usually when the best portraits happen. The emotions aren’t forced. You’re both relaxed because it’s just the two of you. We’ll pick a beautiful location, or even one that has a special meaning for you. And since it’s earlier in the day, you’ll be fresher and have more energy.
A first look slows the day down. It’s a break in the midst of a marathon. And in that moment nothing else matters. When you first lock eyes, it’s like falling for each other all over again. And that’s what the first look all about–celebrating your joy, intimacy, and love.